Awareness

Everybody is Welcome

View the video that goes with this post here. Over the recent weeks, I have received several messages and calls from people asking if I would be happy seeing them because they don’t feel they have the right look, body shape or size. Or that their fantasy is too “odd” or “unusual”. I’m Sir Dave and like to think of myself as a Professional Kink and Fetish Enabler. For me a really important part of […]

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Introduction to Safewords

Safe BDSM is sexy BDSM and for me safewords are a key to that. Click here or the image to view the video version of this blog post. I never play without a safeword and I want to explain more about that and why they are so important. I have a very simple safeword that I use in all of my sessions, and it is quite commonly used by others in the kink world, and […]

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World Mental Health Day & Sex Work

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day (#WMHD2019 or #WorldMentalHealthDay) and there have been so many awesome posts on social media, websites, TV and programmes about mental health. People have been sharing their personal experiences of Mental Health, the obstacles they have overcome, the battles they still fight every day and how their lives have been affected. Over the past five to ten years mental health awareness has really come on. The phrase “it’s ok to […]

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KinksterApp – Should you sign up?

You may have heard about a new boy on the block … Kinkster App. Lots of people are getting excited about it, me for one. And lots of people are asking why do we need yet another bloody hook up app when we have Recon, Grindr, Scruff, FetLife, Twitter, Growlr, Grommr, Gaydar (is that still a thing?) and plenty other less well known or used sites. I thought rather then just sharing my signup code […]

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Kinky Instagram Hashtag Tool

You may have seen my Puppy Hood Visualiser on the site, which has proved popular in helping pups design their own looks! And you, hopefully, follow me over on Instagram. One of the things that is very important on Instagram is the use hashtags, but it gets quite boring writing out lists of hash tags each time. And you ideally want to be using a variety of hashtags for each post to add exposure to […]

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Be Body Positive – Every Body is the Perfect Body

After a visit to Benidorm I’ve been talking about writing this post. My intention is to continue the conversation that has taken place over the years on the attitude to the body beautiful in the fetish scene. In everyday life, newspapers, magazines, fashion shows, advertising there has been discussion on body image. I’m not sure the fetish community, one built on different sexual tastes fully acknowledges the issue. And we as members of that community […]

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Visiting a Pro-Dom / Escort

Happy New Year and welcome to 2017! Many people start January with resolutions that last about a week, but some do use the new year as an opportunity / excuse to try new things. Or to think to yourself this year you are going to take that next step – whatever it may be. And that may be booking your first visit to an Escort / ProDom. So I thought I would start the year […]

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30 Days of Kink: Day 18

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they? Two words … “no limits”. The amount of times I have seen or read this, people who really don’t understand the difference between fantasy and reality. When going through play negotiation when asked what are they into / would they like the worst answers can also include: Whatever you want to do I don’t mind, I just want to submit and get used / […]

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30 Days of Kink: Day 16

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally? There is always going to be a stigma associated with BDSM / kink play or what some may refer to as minority / alternative sexual interests. I’ve been called a deviant before now … I see that as a compliment. People have preconceptions about sex and sexuality they don’t understand. And they can be very […]

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Manchester Pride 2016

Thankyou Manchester for not just a Big Weekend, but an amazing weekend! And thankyou to all my friends who were a part of it and made it so special. I last went to Manchester Pride a three or four years ago, and had quite a mixed experience of it. But was determined to make the best of it this year … it’s all in the planning. I have quite a love / hate relationship with […]

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